The situation that I am in at the moment is no longer one that is so unique. I look around me walking through the mall or anywhere really and there are scores of inter-racial couples everywhere around me. To be honest I can’t help but stare. There’s a piece of me that wants to go up to them and ask if it’s easy.
I don’t think I really understood what I was embarking on until I came face to face with the reality that my relationship was thought of as an anomaly, a mistake that should be blotched out. It’s not easy to walk around and see the stares. It’s even harder when you realise that they stares and comments are all directed at you. It’s quite disconcerting when well meaning acquaintances proudly declare that they could never do that. I never have any idea about what to say then.
The whole inter-racial relationship is something that I had to deal with and I have. I wouldn’t trade my beloved for anything in the world.
All of these experiences should have made me realise that there are people out in the world who think of themselves as being better than all the other races in the world. Despite having come in direct contact with those types of people, it still shocks me to the core every time I come across something new like that.
Human nature is something that I don’t think I will ever understand. The concept of truth and what is right and wrong seems to incredibly different among people. Perhaps it is true that truth is indeed relative but surely respect and dignity are the same among all people, irrespective of race, ideology or religion even.
The American Declaration of
Or perhaps it was George Orwell who it had it right when he wrote that “All animals are equal, but some animals are more equal than others.”
The reality is that there are still people who start and join pro-apartheid groups. In their own minds they are right. In my mind, they’re a sad pathetic bunch of losers that cannot adapt.
Who’s right?
2 comments:
A very heartfelt post. I cant help but agree with u. South Africa is still very much a divided country in many ways - not just race but also class. Its so normal in other countries to be married out of one's race I guess people havent yet come to terms with it here - but that shouldnt really bother u. I didnt realise that it did. Just think of yourself as a pioneer - someone who didnt really give a crap about what others may have deemed to be an out of convention.
it used to bother me alot but I've dealt with it and moved one.
I'll never forget the one time when I was really upset about the whole issue and beloved and I had our hands palm to palm. I said look at the difference between us and his reply was that
"yeah my hands were so much smaller than his."
In that moment I knew he didn't see in racial terms, he just saw me as the girl he fell for.
it helped ... a shitload
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